Aita for not helping Cronyism is specifically giving someone you know a position of authority when they may not have the required qualifications, while nepotism just means abusing YOUR position of authority to give special treatment to someone because they are your friend/family, doesn't necessarily require giving them a job or a position You were in the store alone and trying to do your job, whereas Corey was looking for someone to talk to and being inappropriate (asking if he could stay at your apartment, etc. Hopefully she'll get into a nice school but I know the Pell grant alone covers the cost of tuition and books with some left over for full-time at an in state community college. Do not feel bad for wanting to use your money for any reason at all, especially to further yourself academically. I feel guilty for being frustrated. You’re such a wonderful sister, OP - you offered half and saw your sister’s pain. You're not required to uproot your life to be additional parents to your sister's children. This has me feeling really bad and I'm not sure if I did the right thing The logistics you point out make it reasonable not to help her move, but it reads like you are using the logistics as an excuse to justify a decision you already made, and it really seems like you wouldn’t help even if she was close because you “hate moving. I was annoyed. Seriously! The stepfather that told your mom to send you away is asking you for help! What an ass. Although, I have this slight guilty feeling about calling out my family online which is causing me to have a hard time reading the comments and accepting that they're just shitty people. lcjkyirzdhhryqwtqgxmvhjoezjewuandxvexxrdzeemdhbedynehnykiorarxcssjlpkwomlw